I was looking on Facebook Saturday morning and had a thought that I had not seen my step sister post anything in quite awhile. She doesn't post very often at all - maybe like once every month or two, but occasionally she will comment or click like on a post or picture of mine or DD's. So I went to her page to see if she's still on Facebook. Yep - apparently she unfriended me! I texted DD and she's like What?! Why?! I said I can only guess she didn't like that I decided to take care of my mom, LOL. Occasionally I will "un-follow" someone (but still stay "friends") because I either get annoyed that they post all day long, and/or post tons of political stuff (either way). I don't fit that bill. I post something to my wall maybe once a week and it's never about political or opinionated stuff. Just pics of our dogs, the nature outside or something like that.
She's the only one of my 4 step siblings
who is on Facebook (and like I said - very minimally). They
are really all too "good" for something like Facebook. I get that some
people don't use it/care for it, but most of the people I know who
don't, it's really just because they are pretty private people. But, I
can guarantee you the reason none of my other step siblings use it is
because they think it's beneath them and their social status.
- I got a chuckle and an eye roll over realizing it. (though she is
still friends with DD). The other day I was thinking about SB (her brother)...I was
thinking how ironic that he felt he had the right (last August) to tell
me I needed to take a month and go take care of my mom "she needs her
daughter", yet when I decided to take care of her, he didn't like that
one bit. Guess it just kind of proves to me he was involved for the
money/and or control aspect. And now my SS apparently doesn't think I'm
good enough either.....yet she probably talks to my mom only a few
times a year.........
Every person who knows me, has said SB is wrong, and must have just been in it for the money. I'm still not convinced that was his reason (though I'm probably wrong, I tend to believe the best in people). This is from my uncle (mom's brother), my half sister (no relation to this side of family), my boss and my side job boss (both of who trust me with their company's millions of dollars) and a couple of friends. Each of them completely trusts that I have her best interest at heart and will be better for her than him being in charge. But, what else reason could he have to be mad that I'm going to take good care of my mom?? Hmmm??? Not to mention, a couple years after my dad died (a little over 10 years ago) she updated her will (their previous will, when my dad was alive was split evenly between me and step sibs, as I expected it to be) and left it all to me. I was a bit surprised. She gave me a copy and said she changed it because she hardly ever hears from or sees any of them and they wouldn't be the ones taking care of her, I would be. She was of complete sound mind then. (I had no idea she had done this until she gave me the new will copy). Then in early 2018 when BF gets SB get all involved with her.....AND she had started to have her memory issues, her will gets changed. Seems mighty suspicious to me, now that I think about it. The new will only leaves 10% split between step sibs, so no big deal, but who knows what he might have done in later years with her will?
Last summer he also had her change her retirement account beneficiaries. It previously just went to her estate (and then would be distributed per her will.) Now it is listed with the beneficiaries % the same as the will, which is fine. I'm guessing that then all that could be distributed without having to go to the estate/probate (but what do I know?). BUT, it's also possible, since he had POA, that down the road he could have then changed the beneficiary of the retirement account to just him....which would have left nothing to go to the estate and nothing for all those she listed in her will, because that retirement account money is 95% of her assets.