On a happier note, the weather suddenly warmed up Monday and Tuesday. They delivered the grass sod Monday and the crew showed up yesterday and laid it all down. It looks amazing! We are so thrilled. The dogs loved it, LOL. Now it can snow all it wants.
I am so up in the air as how best to handle this POA deal with my mom/step brother. It's literally making me sick to my stomach.
I have not emailed him back yet. I keep changing my mind what I want to say.
I had a recollection that I'm sure relates back to when this POA got done. I know we were still living in our house in town because I remember sitting in my office when she called, so it probably was back when this POA happened. My mom called and said she was thinking that when the time came eventually to sell her house, she thought she see if SB could help her with it, since he lives fairly close (1 hour from her). She said she thought that would make things easier on me having to try and do it from where I now live. I said that sounded like a good plan, if he wanted to help, but that it would be no problem for me to take care of it, either. That was it.
I had no notion that he was actually given full POA over her life and all her decisions. If I had, I certainly would have had a more thorough discussion with her about it! Whether she, at the time, thought that's all she was doing was giving him permission to help sell her house, I'll never know now.
Part of me wants to just email him and be totally upfront and honest and say I had no idea he had POA, that if I had known, I certainly would have wanted to be involved in the decision process. Tell him I had talked to my mom about doing a POA this past weekend, not knowing he had it, and she said she wanted me to have it. Then I got his email and went through her files and discovered the POA listing him. Tell him I've talked with my uncle and he thinks it should be me, as well as he also had a long discussion with her about it and she told him she feels it should be me. Say to him, if the situation were reversed and it was his dad/my step dad who was the one still alive and needing a POA, I sure would expect it to be SB or one of his siblings, not me!
I got advice from another close friend. She said just do it and don't give 2 sh#t's about what SB thinks about it. He's not her son.
I've been calling her about 9:30 each morning this week. Seems to be a good time to call her. And she had a question to check into something with her new insurance plan (that starts in Jan) for her prescriptions. It's with the same company she's always been with, just a different "plan" they offer. She got a letter stating her new plan named such and such will be in effect January but they recommend filling any prescriptions before the end of the year. Not really sure why but I can surely check on it. I'm glad she knew/thought to ask me to help, too.