My UPS overnight-ed bonus check finally arrived late yesterday afternoon. Well, it was totally worth the wait!! In addition to the bonus I was expecting, I received an additional bonus of $3000 (net $2500)! That is so awesome and I am so surprised and thrilled. I sent my boss an email (she's been asking if UPS showed up yet) and thanked her so much. She said not everyone got the extra, but she was given some additional funds to allocate to extra bonus's and wanted me to know how much she appreciates me and all I do.
It's about a 400 mile straight shot east from my office to where I am now. I looked at the UPS tracking detail for this overnight letter. OMG! It took quite the scenic route around the country, I tell ya. That letter envelope traveled 4000 miles. Good grief, LOL.
ok now, for what I was really starting to post about:
Sibling dynamics are always so interesting. I grew up an only child, so it's all pretty much foreign to me. I do have step siblings, but they are all older than me and they lived with their mom (or were already grown up, when their dad and mom split) so I don't have that experience.
DH is one of 5 kids. He is the second oldest, with his older brother being 7 years older than him (so he's 61 now). His 3 younger siblings range from 15 months younger to 7 years younger than him. The oldest and his wife are complete SCUM. I don't think we've seen them in probably 20 years or talked to them. They never wanted much to do with any of the family and that was just fine with us. It's not that they every really broke ties or anything happened, they just do not bother to keep in touch. On occasion they will contact the parents, but it can be years in between. Their own 3 kids barely have anything to do with them.
But this is the sibling and his wife (I'm sure most of it is generated by her) that thinks it's ok to message SIL on Facebook and give her grief because they weren't told this or that. SIL said she tells them every time, "dad says if you want to know what is going on with him and mom, then call them and talk to them". DH told SIL awhile back he would call (I think this was when FIL had the surgery that didn't go well and he was in ICU) older brother and let him know. Of course he didn't answer his phone and never called back. Then last Friday night, when FIL went into ER, DH tried to call this older brother, again no answer or return call. DH doesn't leave voicemails. He figures in this day and age with everyone having a cell phone in their hand or pocket 24/7 the brother knows someone is trying to get a hold of him.
If I was SIL I probably would have just given them a quick courtesy phone call, short and sweet and then told them to call dad if you want to know what is going on with them, from here forward. Just to save the aggravation you know is coming from them. So, SIL tells oldest brother (or really it was most likely his wife on the other end of the Facebook message, it's her Facebook account) that DH has tried to call him at least a couple of times (I think it's actually been 3 attempts) in the past couple of months. The reply back was "what?! he's alive? (like DH is the one hiding, LOL) I really doubt he tried to call me, he doesn't have the nerve, and if he did, why didn't he leave a message?" This is from a 61 year old adult! Not to mention IF they had bothered to call the parents any time in the last 2 1/2 years they would have known "DH was alive".
How about act like a normal person and say "oh, he tried to call me? I didn't know (or didn't recognize the number, so I didn't answer). Give me his number and I'll call him back!". It's obvious they are just looking for an excuse to complain and be as annoying as they can.
DH called his dad's cell last night and MIL answered. Oh boy was she chatty! Normally she will get on the phone and say a few words to DH and that's it. So, it's very good to know she is liking this place. FIL is feeling worse and worse (as expected, though) so DH didn't talk to him too long. We're just glad they now have 24 hr care.