SIL found an adult family home for parents and they were moved there yesterday. She said it was very hard. FIL was very upset and sad (though he told her they needed to go there asap), but she said MIL was being great about it, so at least that helped. They are in a home setting and share a bedroom. The place currently also cares for two other people. It's fairly near where SIL lives, maybe 5-10 miles away, at the most. Hopefully, it will be a good place for them. Sadly, SIL is now dealing with some other sibling issue while trying to deal with all this. The oldest sibling and his wife (alcoholics) who don't live nearby and act like they are in jr. high. Just makes us realize even more why we have nothing to do with them. Not worth the time or effort they require.
Ok, now we are officially ready for some snow. DH has been looking and
looking for something to plow snow with. We figured our budget was going
to have to be in the $4000-$5000 range (ugh), because that is the cheapest he
was finding anything on Craigslist, even just a quad with a snow plow attached.
Finally, a guy posted an older quad for sale for $1650. He
also said he had a winch and snow plow he could put on it, for extra. DH
contacted him and he said another guy had already called and was going
to come look on Monday, but if he didn't buy it, then he'd call DH. He
called today and said the guy never showed up, so DH is next. DH asked
if he would deliver it and he said he would (he's about 60 miles away).
So, for a total of $2000 (including winch, plow and delivery) we will
soon have something to plow our driveway with. I know DH has been
stressing about this. We really didn't want to have to spend $4000 or $5000, so
we are really happy that we got this for $2000. Now, if we get a bunch
of snow, which is predicted later this week, we are ready for it.
My year end bonus checks are cursed! Last year was a big delay with it. My boss got mixed up and sent it USPS priority (so 2 day), but she used our street address and not our PO Box. It took 8 days to finally get to me! Last Friday she emailed and verified my new address and asked how should she send it. I said either usps or ups is fine, we don't have the PO Box anymore. She sent it out last Friday via UPS overnight. It was out on the truck for delivery yesterday. Of course it never showed up. Supposedly it is going to show up today. Good grief - I know they don't delivery on weekends, but they had an extra 2 days to get it to the truck for delivery, with the weekend, so now we're on it's 5th day! Cursed, I tell ya ;) Plus, my company was charged $42 by UPS for this overnight "letter". I put in a claim for a refund of the overnight cost, since they did not deliver on time.
The house is progressing as well as can be expected. Two of the framers were back to finish up, the electricians were finishing up the rough in, painter was here to finish staining the timbers (thankfully it has warmed up enough), some garage door installers were here installing the wiring for garage door openers and then the insulation crew showed up. About early afternoon, everyone was done and left, except the insulation crew. It got pretty quiet here all of a sudden! Now it's just the insulation crew and they said it's about a 10 day job. They are from out of town and are staying in the town motel, while on this job, so they actually ended up working until like 8:30 last night. Like they said, they might as well work as much as they can. DH said they are doing a great job with what he's seen so far, so he is happy that we ended up with this company to do it (not the same company that did our shop).
I'm so glad a place has been found for your in-laws, but are the alcoholic siblings her problem? I don't know what it is but there does come a time when you (she) just have to save yourself. I wish you all good luck, though, this is a tough time.
ReplyDeleteshe's trying her hardest not to make them her problem, but she seems to be the one they message/text to complain that she's not keeping them informed. Yet, they NEVER call the parents and FIL told her, if they want to know what is going on with mom and I they can certainly call us and ask. She should just tell them to bugger off!
DeleteYour SIL has done a good job to find a place so quickly. Still there is a lot on her plate and I am sure she will be stressed when it is time to empty the house and put it on sale. May God help her.
ReplyDeleteshe has done well, but yes, there is still so much she will have to do. She already asked DH and his other brother (the siblings that bother to call the parents) if there is anything they want before she gets rid of it all. No one seems to want anything, so hopefully she can just do the easy thing and maybe there are companies that will just come take all the stuff? so they can resell and make a few bucks.
DeleteThis is good news, especially for your SIL. Just getting them into a home takes a lot off of her plate. As for getting rid of the stuff, I'd do what was suggested with my dad. Have the family members take what they want and have a company take care of the rest which is often done via an estate sale. Don't be discouraged with the % the company takes-I've heard often 50% or higher. Getting rid of the stuff on your own can be a real pain and is often more trouble than it is worth.
ReplyDeleteI don't think she's too worried about what she'd get for their stuff. Honestly, none of it is worth much at all. Even if she can just donate the furniture and dishes and stuff, the tax deduction is probably as much as they'd end up with anyway.
DeleteI would delete the above message don't you think. Some twat of a troll.
ReplyDeleteDeleted. The spam troll hit about 10 of my posts :/
DeleteGood for you. I see we are online at the same time! Greetings and have a happy Christmas. A
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