Yesterday afternoon I called the place my mom lives in now. I wanted to make sure I'm aware of all what's available to her living there and wanted to ask if an outside service can come in and help her. I found out some helpful information, that will probably be able to keep my mom there awhile longer, or at least until we can figure out a move. Honestly, if she can stay there another 3-6 months that would be great.
So, first off is yes, an outside service can come in and assist her. Some of the residents use the services that are in the area (ie. like Visiting Angels). She wasn't sure of their details, she thought some maybe had a 2 hour minimum charge. I will just have to check into some, if the digital calendar/alarm doesn't work.
Secondly, is they have free Lyft service up to 10 miles for residents. They just have to go down to the front desk, let them know they need the ride and they will call Lyft. If it's over 10 miles then it's $2 per mile, so very reasonable and the charge just gets added on their monthly billing. I doubt my mom was even aware they offer this, or if she did, she forgot. I'm sure it was mentioned in the beginning, but she had way too much to remember then and plus, she has her car, so probably didn't give it a second thought. But, I'm so glad to know this. It's one more thing that could let her stay there awhile, if she can't drive, she would still have transportation. Like the grocery store (and her bank inside) is only a mile or two away. Her doctors office is 4 miles. She could even take a Lyft ride the 10 miles to see her BF and not have to drive herself! They also do regular "shuttle" trips in the van type thing where they have scheduled trips, to say Walmart, where they drop them off for an hour and then take them back.
So, if I can get the medication issue resolved and know she has rides, when needed, I feel she could stay there awhile longer and do ok, since otherwise she can still take care of herself. This currenet place does do all the meals (though she does have her own kitchen if she wants to eat there) and does weekly housekeeping.
I called mom back in the afternoon as I wanted to tell her about the Lyft rides and that she could take that over to see BF.She didn't answer, no call me back until about a half hour later. She had been feeling better by afternoon and decided to get in the shower, haha. She did sound quite a bit better and more energetic. I told her about the free Lyft servcie and she brought up moving near DD again, saying she wanted to make sure it's a place that offers assistance with living, so she wouldn't have to move again. I told her that is the type I am looking into. Then she said "well, if it wasn't for my insurance I'd move over to near where you live". We have talked about this a bit before (I threw the idea out there a couple times, just to see what she'd say). I reminded her again, that she is not tied into this particular insurance plan. She has other options to choose from (she has just always used Kaiser) and if she moves out of the area, she is allowed to switch to a different plan (Medicare advantage type plan). She said oh, well I think I'd like living over there, close to you then. So, I'm going to definitely get more info on the places in the city (about 35-40 min from us). I had gotten info on one, just to see.
We'll talk more about it with her this weekend. Show her the places online. It would be so much nicer if she would move here! Easier on me and she'd have me visiting her regularly. But, she's also known for changing her mind, so next week, she could have a totally different idea, LOL. But, so far, the past 2-3 weeks, she has stayed set with the idea that she does know she needs to move and wants to be somewhere that can help her as her needs change over the years.