SIL sent DH a message that on Monday she went by herself and checked out a retirement community. She said it was nice and parents could afford the base rent and to pay for some extra services they'd need help with. She then went and told parents about it and of course, just as I figured, FIL is back to his usual "oh, we'll be fine, it will get better for us" routine. She spent most of the day at their house trying to get them to make a plan, but no luck. Like she said, she can't physically drag them out of the house. She even called her dad the next day to ask him to go look at the place with her, but he wouldn't go. I'm sure she is beyond frustrated. I just sent her a message, mostly just trying to give her some moral support. I kind of know what she is going through, as my mom went through it with my grandma, who was so stubborn about it all. But, since it was only one parents mom had to deal with, Grandma really didn't have much choice.
I've suggested AGAIN to SIL about at least getting someone to come in daily and help with some things for a few hours. That's what we first did with my Grandma. Had a lady come in like 4 hours a day or so. She helped her bathe, cleaned house, laundry, and made her a meal. When she needed more help than that is when my mom made her go into assisted living. Which, by the way, was such a nice place! She absolutely hated it and was only there not even a month. She had her own little studio apartment, bathroom, little kitchen. She absolutely hated it and was only there not even a month. So, she had to go somewhere, so my mom found an in-home type care place. I hated it! LOL. Why anyone would want that over the first place, I have no idea. She was there several months, but my mom just didn't really care for the lady that ran the house much. My grandma really seemed to like one of her nurses, who worked there, a lot, and then the nurse decided to open her own home care place, so my mom moved her there and that's where she was for almost 2 years, until she died. I never did feel comfortable going there to visit her. I guess it's because it's in someone's home.
SIL just messaged me back that she'd like to call me this afternoon and talk about it. I figured she could use an ear to vent, at least.
Somehow I missed a work call just a bit ago and it was in voicemail. Then an email went out to everyone that our phone system is glitching and calls are going straight to voicemails. Ok, well, that explains that then. Apparently one of our manufacturer's wants to set up paying us via ACH. But it's through a 3rd party contacting me to set it up. Well, I'm not giving out our banking info until I confirm with our mfg. that is really them haha! Too much scams going on in this world. I'm sure it's legit, but better safe than sorry.