My frustration level is about to reach it's boiling point. First off, no one showed up again to make sure mom get her meds last night. She did manage to take them herself this time, but again, I had to spend time watching the camera and making sure. Plus now one of the cameras will no longer go into live view. I'm guessing its the battery running low. It will record a motion clip if I have it on motion detection, but if I click on live view it won't connect. Then this morning it's a few minutes to 8 am and mom is not getting dressed to go down for breakfast and again, no help, so I ended up calling her myself.
And I go to log into work and the VPN connection isn't working so I'm waiting on our IT company to call me. Great way to start off my morning. I guess I'm not the only one getting the error message. A co worker who also works remote just mentioned the same thing on our company chat screen. After I get this resolved I'm going to text the caregiver and find out what is going on. Not even sure what to say....um hello....are you still helping my mom??
Ok, I'm finally connected to work - now to get caught up on missing a week.........
That's troubling. Without your camera would you even know?
ReplyDeleteNo, without the cameras (one is still working) I wouldn't know at all for breakfast. I can tell on the meds via the dispenser app if she dispensed them, but need the camera to actually see she goes to her sink and takes them
DeleteDo you think your mother fired them?
DeleteAnyone in this profession worth their salt knows someone with this disease firing them, is something that rationally would be discussed with the person who hired them
Deleteagree with jj - she would know this would have to come from me or at minimum a discussion with me before stopping the caregiving...especially with how confused mom was last week.
DeleteThis is so frustrating :( I am wondering if they have too mant people for just two folks to manage, or if they had an emergency ? Or something else. Either way if they're not reliable, you have to revert to the plan to move her, sigh.
ReplyDeleteI'm guessing it was a bit of all of the above
DeleteI have heard that that kind of help is often known to be unreliable.
ReplyDeleteI have heard this too :(
DeleteIt'll be interesting to hear what the caregiver has to say - all the more so if she doesn't know you have cameras in your mom's room. Although she would be silly not to think about that possibility, I reckon, because so many have nanny-cams now! I hope you get it sorted out though!
ReplyDeleteShe does know I have camera - I've mentioned it 2 or 3 times now.
DeleteI meant to word it as I've mentioned it to her 2 or 3 times now, not mentioned it on my blog, LOL.
DeleteI wonder if somehow messages were crossed and one woman thinks the other is on duty. I would certainly call soon and get them on track. But, I would not give up on them or their service. There are surely other people who perform the same services. I doubt the people at the facility who recommended her know she has no one coming in to help her. Have you talked to anyone yet?
ReplyDeleteOh no. We are at a similar point with one of the SILs. Not sick enough/out of it enough for medicare to pay for her to go to a nursing home, not well enough/coherent enough to be able to take care of herself without help. I hope you can get the caregiver situation straightened out so the situation isn't so stressful for you and her!
ReplyDeleteI hope I can get it figured out too. When they are there it works great...
DeleteUnfortunately I think it is hard to find caregivers that are 100% reliable. My dad was paying for medication management in assisted living where they handled all of his pharmacy ordering and delivered meds to him twice and day. One day I got an email about a doctor's appointment for him I knew nothing about and found out later that a caregiver had given my father the wrong medications! At least they called his doctor to get him checked out (fortunately he was fine). I'm sure it is stressful for you, but your mom is lucky to have you closely monitoring things for her.
ReplyDeleteProbably time to consider going back to your original plan of moving your mom to a facility that can provide a higher level of care. The caregiver you hired definitely isn't reliable.
ReplyDeleteI'd be calling ASAP. I'd also contact the place your mom is staying as they were the ones who gave the recommendation. Frustrating for sure.
ReplyDeleteWhen Mom was declining, we had 24/7 care for her but I went to her house every morning and either my sister or I went every evening. We had wonderful sitters for her, but you still need to check things daily. Even if we had a camera we still would have gone.
ReplyDeleteWith working full time I'm not able (nor do I want to) do a 100 mile round trip drive daily to physically be there each day. Hopefully the caregiver can do what she said she can do daily. If not I'll have to figure out something else.
DeleteIt's hard when cognitive decline starts. Is there a facility closer to your home?
DeleteWe live in a small rural area 50 miles from the nearest "big" city. (our town is only 900 population) This is the closest place I could get her to me.
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