A frustrating day

AHHH! So frustrated right now. DH has been trying to adjust to his new progressive lens glasses the past few weeks. Double hard, I guess, as it's his first time wearing glasses ever and then add trying to adjust to progressive lenses with basically 3 different lenses in one.  He can see great now for distance - watching tv or driving. They are not working for the middle distance (computers) and close up (reading) at all. No matter where he tries to put his eyes or situate the lenses it's not clear. He tried to tell them that the day he got them, but they (Walmart Vision center) wouldn't listen. Told him they take getting used to is all.

So, he's been trying. I know they take a bit for your brain to adjust to but at some point there has to be a position he would be able to put his head or eyes and see to read or see the computer clearly. There is not. We stopped in last Friday to let them know and the guy working there was a jerk, you could tell he wasn't listening to the problem and we made an appointment for today for a recheck on the eye exam. DH was already in a bad mood to start with (when isn't he?) and the doctor felt the prescription was right so he then had one of the front ladies check to make sure it was ordered correctly. I wasn't back with him when he was seeing the doctor but he apparently did some "test" where he put the near and distance together, with Dh's prescription, to simulate a progressive and DH said he could see through it great. First the assistant had DH look to read something to and tells him he's not doing it right and then when he puts his head and eyes just like she says he tells her it's still totally blurry. He can make out like one line, sort of. They don't want to listen. Then when I tell her that I wear progressive and when I look through mine to read I can see clearly like half the page. She says "well you probably have high end lenses, like Zeiss". So, I ask her if they have those to put in DH's glasses and she goes off on some other explanation of why, with my small lenses, I probably had to go with the Zeiss. Again, I ask her : can DH have the higher quality lenses put in his?. Finally, after DH says for about the 5th time - these glasses don't work for me" and that he'll just use them to see distance, he got up and walked out.

So, I'm left standing there trying to figure out a resolution. Should he try the higher priced lenses? Should he just get a single vision distance pair, to take off while reading or computer work or maybe a lined bifocal like the dr. now suggested (DH said no to those)? She did say he could get a full refund if he wanted, too. So, I just left and DH yelled and screamed in the car all the way home - also mad at me because I had the nerve to take him to Walmart while I got my last pair (2 years ago) someplace else. When he finally shut up long enough I explained that I have used Walmart for over 10 years with no problems. When I needed my last eye exam and a new prescription the doctor had left Walmart to start her own optometry office and this Walmart was left without the doctor vacancy for many many months. I couldn't see a doctor there because they didn't have one! So, I ended up going to this same doctor at her new place. I need to go in for another eye exam soon and had planned on going back to Walmart in a few months. But according to DH I'm wrong for taking him to the same one I've used for over 10 years, all but one time. So, I guess I will just get our money back and take him to the doctor that I got the glasses I have now from.  She costs a lot more, and more than likely, he'll have the same problem trying to get used to the glasses she prescribes him too, and we'll be going through this all again.

It's so frustrating living with a person that cannot handle any of life's problems whatsoever. I find my self trying to avoid anything that I think might be a problem for him - probably why it took me (well, that and I needed the money to pay for it) so long to even schedule DH's eye exam in the first place. We rarely go anywhere because the stress of it is just not worth it to me anymore. Sometimes on the weekend he'll say let's go do something, but when I ask what he'd like to go do he has no idea at all and I end up not suggesting anything because I really don't want to go and deal with going somewhere with him. If he actually had an idea of what to go do, I'd probably go do it. It's all just a snowball effect, of course. He's feeling trapped and house bound but if he tries to go somewhere he can't handle the traffic, the parking, the crowds, the lines, etc. One day each of the last 2 weeks he has gone out by himself (to help a friend with some things) - which is a win for everyone. He get's out for half a day, on his own, so none us have to go with him and deal with his frustrations at the world and we got some peace and quiet at home! I cannot wait for the weather to warm up so he can at least get outside a couple times a week to mow the lawn - we have a big yard and it takes him like an hour and a half, even with a riding lawn mower. I see the grass coming out of it's winter dormancy and will need to start being mowed again soon! Thank God for small miracles.