Thursday, May 18, 2017

Please pay for the stuff I want

My new Pet Peeve. Seems everyone's new thing is to set up a GoFundMe account so they can get what they want, without having to pay for it themselves.  There's even been a few recently among people I know.  DD's boyfriend's sister. She wanted to go study abroad for a semester. Had zero money, so she set up a gofundme to get everyone else to pay for it. After she only received about $100 in donations, she gave up.

Now it's my niece trying to fund her life choices, so she can go get her master's degree in another state. Umm...no, I'm not giving you money for that! Maybe take out a student loan, so you cover your tuition and living expenses. Or here's an even better idea - go get a JOB and WORK for a few years, live with your parents, and save the money yourself, so you can go do it, if you don't want student loans.

Seriously, I do not get this attitude of entitlement. Why is it everyone else's responsibility to pay for your life choices?

It's my DD's pet peeve too, so we just had quite the snarky text messages back and forth about it. At one point I mentioned the above about getting a JOB and WORKing and she texted back "whoa whoa whoa. You CANNOT use the J and W word with people anymore!"  LOL.

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  1. It has reached a whole new level for sure! My oldest daughter showed me a GoFundMe for an old acquaintance of hers...The girl is 19 years old and is asking for money for "surgery" to help her modelling career. Are you kidding me?!?! She was direct messaging everyone on social media to try to get money....so far she has raised ZERO! Wonder why....LOL

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    1. I've seen a few for boob jobs too - what a bunch of wallies. Like you say get a JOB. Anna

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  2. Now I can see if you have an emergency medical situation and can't pay your medical bills or some other catastrophe but seriously?....for school? Get a job and/or get a student loan.
    Lazy entitled millenials. Almost as bad as lazy entitled baby boomers. lolz

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    1. yes, I have donated to medical emergencies and also to a dog rescue, but I'm not forking over my hard earned money from WORKING so someone else doesn't have to LOL

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  3. What, you mean to say that I shouldn't be entitled to everything you have? I am all for helping those that truly cannot help themselves, but for the rest, they need to go and work for it like I did!

    Be careful with those medical need fundraisers. I once had a patient's family set one up for a legit expense claiming they would send any excess funds to help others. Didn't happen. They used the overage to put a new roof on their house.

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    1. I'm pretty stingy with my money so for the most part don't even dontate to medical ones very often. People just aren't trustworthy!

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  4. I for one am tired of all the Go Fund me requests. I do see a legitimate need at times - mostly medical- but if I want to bless someone with some money or a grocery gift card I just send it to them. No fees! I am not a big fan of the stupid ones. I saw one lady I know raise thousands of dollars so she could go and pick up her ex husbands dog in Florida - she lives in Nevada. He killed himself and she wanted the dog. So expected everyone else to pay for it. She raised way over what she asked for.

    I now know someone who has breast cancer (which I would never wish on anyone) She is a professional lady with her own company and supposedly - according to her - has a huge amount in retirement and other funds. Her friend (I'm sure with her blessing) is trying to raise 50,000.00 so this lady can take 8 months off. She says her expenses for everyday living are 5,000 a month! With no kids or husband. She has an extensive family and friends, plus health insurance. I had a friend who had breast cancer work right up to the day she had surgery and through every chemo and radiation. I know because I was there helping her through the weekend after chemo every time. What is wrong with people that they feel so entitled.

    I had open heart surgery 7 years ago and no one from the Church so much as offered a meal to my husband. And he's in leadership and very active in the church. Sorry, just a pet peeve as I try to help others as much as I can. But just can't stand the "entitled".

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    1. I agree with you. We have an acquaintance who just recently injured himself - by his own fault and negligence. He's self employed with numerous businesses. He doesn't need the money, yet here a GFM popped up for him the other day. His business's are still going to run, even if he has to spend some time in the hospital. That is so bad about your church not even offering any help! Are you still with that church now?

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    2. My husband still goes but I think he's starting to see the light about this church. They only help the chosen few and this lady I was talking about is one of those. They have banded several churches together to have a big special service to help raise money for this lady. If they can raise 50,000.00 which I think is quite possible why can't they help 50 people with 1000.00 This could change a persons life in a time of need. To me that would be a better use of the money. If a single needs 5000.00 a month for her expenses maybe she should re-evaluate where that $ is going.

      I have another friend who has serious health challenges who took care of her step dad on hospice. Now her mom is headed for in home hospice, she works 3 days a week and her husband full time. They support several people in their family who live with them and she is facing extensive surgery for cancer on her face with no insurance. She never asks for anything and every once in a while I send her a gift card in the mail and don't say who it's from. It's not much but I know she is so appreciative and never asks anyone for anything other than prayers.

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    3. wow. I just don't get some people. Well, God knows you are doing it right and that's all that matters, I guess.

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  5. I had a friend on fb post a go fund me so she could take her family to Disney World!! $5000 goal, and then got $1500, which surprised me. DW isn't a necessity, especially when you're whining about affording food. Her kids are both under 2. They can wait awhile to go to Disney! GFM is a huge pet peeve of mine in our social media obsessed world. It's a shame GFM has turned into a get-rich-quick scheme when it was intended to help those in need. The frivolous gfm's seemed to garner more attention than those who could truly use donations!

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    1. I can't believe people donated to her! It's a strange world we live in nowadays.

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  6. I contribute in a few cases - medical or sudden death, and after I have verified with news sources - the entitlement attitude nowadays is just sad.

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    1. I think it's a great way to fund people really in need and get the word out, but the rest is ridiculous.

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  7. I'll not donate even for medical on GFM, or the other type, for people I do not know because I don't know enough behind the need. I will though support community events like silent auctions, benefit dinners, raffles, as when my nephew and several of his wife's family were seriously hurt in a fire, the whole town seemed to come out for them. I'll never forget that generosity I figure there is so much oversight on those type of things.Never would i fund a frivolous ask-come on people, they should be ashamed. I have intentionally given to fundraising drives for an actual creation of something like a film project my daughter's friend was working on, a self published book, a commissioned piece of art, a piece of music. I feel that is a not asking for funds for nothing, but helping to support the arts in a very tangible concrete way like through Kickstarter.

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    1. those are good things to donate to, for sure.

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  8. I agree with you 100%. I have only once given to a medical ($50) GFM account & that was thru www.makedohomemaker.com she has a friend dying of cancer (very sad).

    My sister & I are huge couponers & we help our family out with the stuff we get so cheaply & friends when they need help. At Christmas I donate huge bags of personal care products, candy, bottled waters, fruit juice bottles etc... for the adults & for the kids I donate personal care products that are made just for kids, small toys, candy, juice etc... we have also in the past donated quite of bit of stuff to women's shelters too. There's a lot you can do for people without donating money all the time.

    When I first read this post I thought oh boy she just might be opening up a can of worms with this post lol But I was very glad to see that people commenting actually understand what you're trying to say. You just never know with people these days b/c most are crazy lol

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    1. I have no problem with someone with a dire need using a GFM type of account, but do not consider wanting to travel or live somewhere you can't afford a dire need. I'm a bit leery now of even donating to dire needs. My DH and I spearheaded a drive to raise money for a racer that was seriously injured in a crash - money for his medical and because he'd be out of work for quite a while. We raised like $25,000 for him...turns out he used most of the money to replace his wrecked race car (and later claimed bankruptcy from his medical expenses). I'm sure most people would use the money for it's intent, but boy, I'll never go to all that work to help someone out like that again!

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