Never good enough

I got to my mom's place to pick her up just in time before getting stuck in a car show drive by, LOL. For Father's Day a local car club or two had set up a drive through the retirement places. By the time we got back from Target, it had passed through. She had a list of things she wanted at Target. Funny how she has always bought Nature Valley granola bars, but didn't have them on her list and when we were passing them in the aisle and I asked her she didn't seem to remember them. But, she bought some cookies and some small bite sized chocolates. She also bought some milk and OJ and some instant oatmeal packets. I think that now that she is required to go to the dining room if she wants breakfast, she more often prefers just to have something in her apartment that early. Sounds like she still somewhat has her guy friend, though yesterday she said is name wrong, a different name starting with same letter, LOL. The last thing on my list to get was more "chip clips". I stopped at the wall of kitchen utensils and told her I was looking for chip clips. She had no idea what those are (though she always had them too). I said clips to hold potato chip bags closed. She still had a totally blank look on her face. Interesting what the mind remembers and doesn't.

Her apartment is so warm! She'll turn on the a/c, but 2 minutes later she says it's too cold. I spent about an hour there and way too warm. I told DD that when she comes in a few weeks we'll either have to take grandma out in the common sitting area to visit or take her for coffee or something. We'll die trying to sit in her apartment for 2 hours. Or we need to wear shorts and tank tops.

I was using her bathroom and snooping in her medicine cabinet and drawers. I know she had gone with her guy friend to Walgreens a couple weeks earlier (saw the charge on her debit card) and wanted to make sure she didn't buy something like those Advil PM'S. Up in her medicine cabinet she had like 3 rolls of TP that have just a little bit left on each. Wonder what the thinking is there. And then as we are putting her milk and OJ in her little fridge I see back in the corner is a can of comet cleaner with bleach, with some foil covering the top. I'm like what is this doing in your fridge? Let's put this down below your sink. She said she didn't know, she thought the cleaning ladies put it there. I'm like well, they use their own cleaners, I'm sure.  Strange.  And since before, when she could drive/shop and lived in her home and then the first retirement apartment, she never threw away any store receipt. She'd put them in her desk drawer, paper clipped together (why, I have no idea), so of course I found her Walgreens receipt from 2 weeks ago, so I took it and was able to see what she bought and make sure it didn't include any OTC stuff she doesn't need or that might not be good for her (there wasn't).

And then I was looking at her meds and filling up for the week and suddenly remembered I just ordered her refills not too long ago...where are they?? Then I started doubting myself, maybe I didn't order them. I just got online to check and shows they were in her mailbox on 6/5. So, where the heck are the 3 bottles? I didn't see them in the bathroom. So, when I go back on the 29th to take her to the dr. I'm going to have to do a good search.

It's been raining this morning, which is nice to get everything watered by nature. I got a text from my young neighbor yesterday afternoon. She wanted to know if the next time I clean out my chicken coop she could come down with her wheelbarrow and help me and she'll take it all for her composting bin. I said sure! And then I asked if she'd mind being a chicken mom for a week while we go on vacation and she said no problem. So, I'll clean it out next weekend and then show her how the watering feeder works, where the water spigot is, etc.

It's kind of too bad, though, that it's raining. DH probably won't be able to mow and keep busy with something today. I'm sure he'll be a grump, as Father's Day is just a reminder of his dad not alive now, our son and lack of relationship and of course nothing dd does to acknowledge him will be good enough. She's already sent a card/gift and of course will call him. But, I get to hear how he expects her to be here for every little occasion. Our neighbors kids live out of state (one lives near dd) and I have numerous times pointed out to dh that their kids are never there for Thanksgiving or Christmas, Mother's Day, Fathers Day...I have not, in knowing them the past 5 holiday seasons ever seen them not alone for Thanksgiving or Christmas, though one year Mrs. flew to Texas for Christmas and Mr. stayed home. Now he's mad that I set it up for her to come and take our dog home with her and we'll meet about half way after we get back to pick him up. It was HIS idea! Well, apparently when I told him she was coming for 4 days, but would have to bring her laptop to work Thursday, he decided if she can work from here one day that she can just come here for 10 days and stay/housesit/dogsit while we are gone. I said well I throw the idea by her....which of course she did not want to do. She doesn't want to be gone from her home and her hubby for 10 or more days and I certainly don't blame her. But he acts (to me) like she owes us this. Then complains some more about having to go 3 hours to pick up the dog the weekend after we get back. I said well, then I'll just do it. He's also now got a pinched nerve in his back, so that's not helping his mood whatsoever. But, he also won't try to do something to alleviate it and get it back to not hurting.

Well, since I was gone half the day yesterday, I guess I'd better get some house cleaning done today. This wet ground might be a good time to pull some weeds out of my wild flower area beneath a tree in the backyard.