Speaking of Facebook......I'm still snooping on DS's (who we still don't hear from) ex GF...trying to figure out if she is still pregnant or what. But, other than a post back when she was apparently 2 months along, she has not mentioned it again. She never posts pics of herself (other than her profile), just of her youngest daughter. 99% of her posts (in the past month) are in an attempt to bash her ex (my son) LOL. She's 39 years old and about the equivalent mentality of a white trash teenager, it seems. Her latest post is a meme of a guy giving the finger "to everyone who believes my ex". She and her little girl went to a wedding where she posted some pics, tagged some people. I went to one of the other peoples page, who had literally posted hundreds of pics from this wedding. I was trying to see if she was in any of the pics of all the guests/reception - to see if there was a pregnant lady (kind of hard to tell because most of them were overweight and looked like they could be 7 to 7 1/2 mos pregnant!). I couldn't find any pics of her that I could tell was her. BUT, what a total 110% redneck wedding, LOL.
oh my! I've never seen anything quite like it. Right down to the short little video clip of the bride holding a bottle of booze and smoking a joint..........
God, makes me so glad my DD has class, LOL. Like they say "you are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with".
Then last night she made a post to "defend" herself in her breakup. It was mostly a string of f-words and other cuss words. The gist of it sounding like he thinks he's too good for her, along with his friends. (gee, I wonder why....) Finally, down in one of the comments to someone she said she had lost the baby she was pregnant with. Another blessing in disguise. She sounds like she has had a very messy life so far. And I'm sure DS is just as much to blame in whatever caused their split. I'm just relieved (again) that there isn't going to be a child brought into their mess of a life. Now that I don't have to wonder if there was going to be a grandchild and I can put her out of my radar. (thank God)
So, then I just get an email from my bank loan officer. They tried to call and verify my employment one last time, before my loan closes to the new mortgage loan. They were told I no longer work at my company! Ok..... when someone calls for verification they call the company who is our PEO/Payroll processor. Which we just changed to a new company this past month. So, I sent an email back saying yes, I still work for my company. We just changed PEO's and I'm not sure who they are supposed to get verification from with this new company, but please just call or email my boss......she'll verify, LOL. Why couldn't the old company just say "WE no longer are the PEO for her company, you will have to call them to verify", rather than telling them I no longer work there? Just dumb. Another good reason we left that company, eh?
It's my half work day Friday. We're going to go into the city this afternoon. DH needs a few things from Lowes and then we'll pick up our grocery order from Walmart. It sounds like tomorrow afternoon he will be having a guy drop off his backhoe, for DH to use for a few days. The rest of the stuff he has to do, he just cannot do by hand and a wheelbarrow.
I'll admit to stalking a few FB pages, too! Lol Interesting what one can find out. It is just as well about the baby. That is the last thing your son would need. The ex sounds like a real piece of work.
ReplyDeleteAll the last minute stuff with getting a mortgage in place sure can be stressful. Sounds like you are in a good financial position that there shouldn't be any issues, but I guess lenders still need to verify and then re-verify info. When we did our refi I couldn't even bring myself to blog about it as right up until we signed the final papers, I had my doubts it would go through. I'm sure you will be relieved to have it all said and done.
It is just as well about the baby, for both of them, I'm sure. She already has one older daughter who doesn't live with her. I hate dealing with lenders too. I'll be so glad when this is all done.
DeleteHope the bank will contact your boss for employment verification.
ReplyDeleteHave a good rest of the day, today, and a wonderful weekend. :)
They contacted my boss, so all is good.
DeleteSeems like your son ended a pretty bad relationship. Good for him. Enjoy your weekend!
ReplyDeleteIt sounds like he did, especially the way she keeps acting, though I'm sure he's none to blame at all.
DeleteCan you imagine him having those people in hi life forever? I hope you got them straight on you job. What is PEI?
ReplyDeleteI keep hoping he'll wake up and figure out how to have a decent life. A PEO is a professional employer organization. They handle all the HR, Benefits and payroll for companies, so that we don't have to have our own department.
DeleteHi from Georgia! I'm glad to hear your DS got away from the toxic, trashy GF. As difficult as it is to lose a child, I know you are relieved that you won't have a grandchild growing up in that environment.
ReplyDeleteI just used Walmart grocery pick up yesterday and really liked it. I only purchased non perishables. Do you use them for fresh foods like dairy, produce, meat, etc.? I'm interested in how well they choose those types of foods. If I find out they do a good job I may never step foot in a Walmart again, lol!
Hi, thanks for commenting! A friend of mine had used the grocery pickup and that was my first question - do you buy perishables too? She did. And I have to say I have not been disappointed at all with any of the meat, dairy, etc they have picked out. I love it!
DeleteSounds like your son dodged another bullet thank goodness, although by the sounds of that female it makes me wonder if she was ever pregnant to begin with. Could she have used her "pregnancy" to sink her hooks into him? But either way a better result than bringing a baby into that mess.
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DeleteYour post really bothered me. I generally try to avoid negative comments, but I feel the urge to call you out. How is what you are posting here regarding this woman any different than what she is doing on her FB? It sounds like you have an inflated opinion of yourself, which you must maintain by pointing out your perceived shortcomings in others. But mostly what got to me is that, really, you shouldn't refer to people, any person, as "white trash," as you did in your comparison. (Where you said "equivalent mentality of a white trash teenager.") That's dehumanizing, and it's something you seem you ought to be above doing, or, at least that's the type of person you are desperately trying to come across as being.
ReplyDeleteI'm not desperately trying to come across as being anything. I am what I am. Certainly, not perfect in any respect. I don’t think, after blogging about myself and my opinions for the past 9 years, that I’m trying to come across as anything other than what I am. Nope, I’m not above calling someone white trash. Quite honestly, I would have no trouble telling my son he's turned into "white trash"...because he has totally lowered his lifestyle to crap...crap attitude, crap job, crap living conditions, and even crappier friends. He (and the ex GF) have the same opportunity as I do in life. They are choosing this (but then think they are victims).
DeleteI could have used kinder or more generic words to describe her, I guess. She’s 39 year old, with 2 children, by different dads, only one child lives with her, got pregnant by a 3rd (my son), after knowing him maybe 6 months. She is half covered in tattoos. Her posts on Facebook are extremely immature and filled with profanity. Just my opinion, but to me that's totally inappropriate for a grown adult 39 year old mother. (let alone a person of any age). I have never posted anything like that on my blog (or my FB), so I'm not sure how that could be considered the same. Her social circle includes people with drug and criminal records. She's an admitted addict (though supposedly "clean" now). I’m sure if I kept up with her future FB posts, she’ll be on to a new guy with the same outcome in short order, as will my son be doing the same. Yes, I perceive those as shortcomings.
If I have portrayed myself as someone desperately trying to come across as someone who wouldn’t call someone white trash, I think you might have missed a few posts over the years. We moved out of our home of 27 years because we were sick of all the WHITE TRASH DRUG ADDICTS AND CRIMINALS surrounding us as neighbors and all those same types coming in to buy the drugs from them. If living a lifestyle where I don’t associate (never have) with people who use drugs (even pot) or drink a lot, where I work hard at my job(s) to have a nice home and live in a nice neighborhood, take care of my appearance and belongings, don’t use profanity (ok, once in a while I’ll swear about something LOL), and expecting responsibility and maturity out of other adults, equates to me having an inflated opinion of myself, then I guess I do. And I’m ok with that. I feel I typically get my own self esteem (ie inflated opinion of myself) from my own actions to live a positive and productive lifestyle. If expecting my son (and those he has in his life) to do the same is me trying to maintain my own inflated opinion of myself, then I guess that’s what I am doing. the only thing I am desperate about is praying my son wakes up, grows up, and snaps out of this, instead of just digging himself deeper in it all.
You totally missed the point: When you say "white trash" you are dehumanizing people. Not only are you saying these people are trash, which you shouldn't say about a fellow human being, no matter how much you disapprove of them. Ill mannered, oozing bad behavior, people you seek to avoid like the plague, sure. But to call a human trash is horrible. Moreover, you are using the adjective "white." I was taught to take this to mean that the person using the term feels the need to emphasize the white part so we know they are white--implying it is somehow an aberration for white people to behave poorly. Finally, you posted all that on this blog, which, unless your kids have never had any idea you have a blog, she, or someone in that crowd, may very well come across this, and read your disapproval. How is that different than her posting profane, messages on FB about the breakup with your son? All in all, it was a very dehumanizing post, and it bothered me deeply, so deeply, that I felt I had to call you out.
ReplyDeleteI didn’t misunderstand your points at all. You think calling someone white trash is horrible and you feel I have an inflated opinion of myself by doing so. I explained I don’t feel the same as you do about it, but that is not the same as missing your point. I’m not into the “pc”, sensitivity vocabulary stuff, at all. Sorry, if that offends you. Sort of like my dear friend, who’s hubby of 34 years cheated on her and moved in with his gf 24 years his junior. In our conversations she called her white trash (that was actually the nicest thing she called her!) but she can say that to a friend. I guess I liken my blog as talking to a friend, I can say what I think. I used to work at a pediatrician’s office. After off and on seeing some kind of “coded” letters on some charts, I asked the 2 front desk receptionists “what the heck is this WTF written next to their name stand for?”, next to some parent names. They said it was their code for “white trash female”.....I don't at all think it's an aberration for a white person to behave poorly. It's extremely completely common.
DeleteI really am not sure why Meg B doesn't just keep strolling on by. OFOI is a responsible adult who works hard and takes care of her responsibilities and if you don't like what she says, move on. Geez
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