Advice resolution

So, as I was typing that last post up, most of it got pretty much resolved, at least for now. I hadn't replied anything yet back to my step brother. I always wait until about 10am to call my mom. Give her time to get up and going before I call. She sounded so much better. Back to herself (though of course that includes some short term memory stuff). She said her doctor appointment went well, that her boyfriend was on his way back to his place, and he would email me later (I'm sure he'll have more detailed info). She said the dr. said she is doing well, gave her a test of questions and she could answer all but 2. She said she's decided she will sell her place and is going to move into the assisted living apartment place her bf lives in. What did I think of that (she's been thinking about it, so I knew she has been considering that option). I said I think that would be a great idea!. She will be close to him (which is what I suggested when she first mentioned moving). Plus where he lives is a safer area than where she is now, if she stayed in her general area.

She and I discussed step brother a bit. I didn't tell her about email or anything. I just reminded her that I do have all her info and can help her with a lot of stuff (like I did yesterday with the credit card) even though I don't live close by. She brought up step brother and that she knows he was just trying to help her and she appreciates it but she felt like he got things more confusing for her. She said she felt like she didn't want to tell him she didn't need his help.

She sounded happy with her decision and happy that I thought it was a good idea.

Then I get another email from step brother.  He said I have good news about your mom. She's decided to sell her place and move to assisted living where her BF is...that "they" (meaning him and my other step sibs I guess) are all relieved and hope I am, too. (Apparently he called and talked to her BF.) Said the doctor said she does have some severe short term memory but overall is very cognizant, though he recommended maybe she didn't live alone, and have some assistance. She's doing much better today. Boy, what a difference a day makes!.....

Like he needs to update me about my mom, as if I wouldn't know otherwise? I'm just finding it very condescending that he acts like I moved away and ignore my mom. Like I said, I talk to her regularly, and then even more often when something comes up that needs my help/attention. Usually she spends weekends with her boyfriend. They alternate weekends at each others places, So, I don't usually call her on weekends, since she's busy with him, she has company and someone to talk to. But, I do call her often during the weekdays. DD usually calls her Friday on her way home from work. My uncle calls her at least once a week, he's very good about that.

In the meantime I have texted/emailed about this with my DD and my half sister (not from my mom) as to what they think. They were both like who in the hell is he, who has hardly been around, to tell you what you should be doing?! They both thought he sounded very condescending. They were getting me riled up about it! haha. I said both his emails make me feel like he thinks I just moved away and have been ignoring my mom! DD's still mad. She's like he comes in, makes all these changes on her, suddenly she's all confused and mixed up and now she's moving to assisted living. I did tell her that the move is a good thing. It would have to happen sooner or later.

So, I just replied back a very short email. I said yes, I've talked to her and she told me. I think it's a great idea. I have been monitoring her health and memory for the past year or so and am aware of what is going on. She tends to get confused and really loses her memory when she gets too much thrown on her at one time, so I have been working/watching to try to help cut down those instances. This past few days was the worst she's ever had with it all.  Thank you for your help with her.

She called me again just now. She had a question about a weird (spam) email she got. So, I was glad she remembered to call me to ask first. We talked about her moving down where her BF lives and again she asked if I thought that was a good idea. I just said "well, short of you moving somewhere like that close to me....being down with your BF facility is the next place I'd like you to be. She was pretty tickled that I said that. I just never thought she would want to live here at all....but it gave her something to think about!