In the construction process, we did end up saving a little bit on dump fees. The contractor had originally put in $1000 cost for dump fees. We had him leave it out, because DH has a little dump trailer and we figured we could take care of it ourselves. He made one trip to the dump part way through and then a final trip yesterday. He had full loads both times and total cost for both was $378. We burned a lot of it, when we could, and filled our regular garbage can with excess, when we could. It's sure nice to have that trailer finally emptied out. He's still not ready to sell it yet, but I'm still hoping, once he's done with the landscaping needs of it, he will still sell it, as planned. Then we could buy a riding lawn mower he will need, which is what I will be reminding him of......
The prior evening DH was sitting out on our front porch with the dogs, it was starting to get darker, sun going down. One of our dogs kept "huffing" (as I call it, sort of a bark,under his breath) because he was seeing something that was apparently across the main road in front of our house. On the other side of the main road is lightly wooded area, then a dirt road behind the trees (actually was originally the railroad from many many years ago, like late 1800's). DH figured he must see an animal out there, that he could see. Yesterday morning, when he was leaving to go to the dump, from out of the trees/bushes comes this man and woman, who he said looked like they hadn't seen a bath in forever. He's guessing they camped over there and that's what our dog was "huffing" at. Kinda creepy. This is a pretty remote area. There are the 3 houses on our little road and the next nearest neighbors are like a mile away. Town is 10 miles away. Hopefully, they were just passing through. Our neighbor said he would take his quad over there and go take a look around.
The final appraisal on the house is finally scheduled, for Saturday morning at 10am. He said it's just basically quick final walk through and should only take 15 minutes or so. I think then they usually have a week or two submit to the bank and then we should be getting closer to closing on the end mortgage loan
Well, at least I have something new to watch on Netflix for awhile. Season 5 of Madam Secretary just got added.
My mom had her dr. appt on Monday. From what she told me it sounds like the doctor really did nothing much of anything. No blood work or anything. No change in meds. Wants her to come back in a month. Says she seems to be doing fine. Her boyfriend went with her and he was there while I was talking to her on the phone. He told her he'd email me about it, but I haven't heard from him yet. She just keeps saying I can take care of my banking and I'm driving fine, so I think I'm ok for now. Well, my thing is she's probably not really going to realize when she's not fine anymore. And also, if she's been having several days here and there where she doesn't feel well (and then it passes) don't you think they should do some blood work, at least? or maybe that is just a common thing to have happen when you get elderly, so the the dr. isn't really worried about it. From what she said he told her to lose weight (which I doubt she will do) and keep active/busy. Since she mentioned her banking, I reminded her that I had taken notes of all her info last visit, but if she's changed any passwords, let me know, so I can update (according to her AOL emails she changed her banking password last week) and she said she hasn't changed anything...but half of our conversation yesterday she seemed to forget recent things, so who knows. I am a signer on the account, so if she had an emergency and I needed to get to her banking for her, I can write checks (my name is on the checks, too) and do banking in person, but having the online access would be convenient, too, if needed. I guess I'll just wait and see what her boyfriend thinks about it.
No 4th plans. Fortunately, where we are it will be very quiet. When we lived in the metro area, I got so I really disliked the 4th. It was non-stop fireworks for days and the 4th evenings always sounded like a war zone until like 1 or 2 am. Even when we lived in town the past 2 years, it was pretty darn quiet, though one of our friends, who lives in town, said this year there have been a lot going off already, and his dog was getting nervous. He has some property with a cabin farther out, so he took her out there for awhile.
It sounds like your mother may have early onset memory loss. As hard as they try to remember things they can't. It is not as if they don't care - they do but their brain is just not functioning properly. They will tell you that they will do something but they don't do it and then they totally forget the conversation. I don't know why doctors are so hesitant to screen elderly people for early onset Alzheimer's. If she was thought to have a brain tumor the doctor would be all over that. She should also have her B12 level checked. That can contribute to memory loss if it is low. There are meds available to help her think more clearly if it is alzheimers and it would be a shame to not give her that help.
ReplyDeleteHi Karen. It sounds like it to me too, plus in addition to her having days she doesn't feel very well, I was so surprised that it sounds like the Dr. basically did nothing at her visit. She did have an MRI on her brain last December, I guess to test for Alzheimer's and they told her it looked normal. But, I would think they would at least do a full blood work up on her to rule out anything that could be causing her to not feel well so often. She does totally forget conversations. Maybe the follow up visit in a month is to test more, I'm hoping.
DeleteThe people in the woods could be dangerous. I watch too many of these murder shows.lol.
ReplyDeleteI hope the bf is not working his way into your mother's account and her life.
No, he's not doing that. He just wants to make sure she's telling the doctor everything and also so he can know what doctor said, because she would forget half of it
DeleteKaren said exactly what I wanted to say about the memory loss - and I am surprised with her bf going to the appointments with her, that the doctor hasn't done any more testing along those lines. Hopefully next month her doctor will do more testing, or perhaps you can email her bf and ask him to ask the doctor to do certain tests?
ReplyDeleteI agree about those people camping across the road. Creepy! You are sitting in a good position with your appraisal. I'm sure you'll be glad to wrap up all these final loose ends. Did you end up locking in a rate?
ReplyDeleteCheck with her bank, since you are a signer on her account, I would think that you would be able to have your own user name and password to her account.
ReplyDeleteWould it be at all possible for you to go with your mom to the next doctor's appointment? That way, you'll be able to discuss your concerns with her doctor. It might be that she's telling her doctors that she's fine and not discussing any days when she didn't feel too well, etc. That's how my mother was. She hated to admit that she didn't feel well, etc.
ReplyDeleteThat's why her boyfriend went with her, so he could make sure the doctor understood about her memory issues she's having and the days she's not been feeling well.
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