On my last post several commenters said how I should be proud of my daughter. I am so proud of her! We have always been very proud of both our children and have never neglected to tell them so. Which brings me to my question, because now, according to my son (he's getting this from the people he thinks are his new life/family) you are not supposed to tell someone you are proud of them. That is taking away their ownership of their accomplishment. You are supposed to tell them "You should be proud of yourself". Huh? Am I missing something here?
For me, my daughter hit the nail on the head: she said I don't need/want you to tell me how I should feel, I want to know how YOU feel.