One of the things the memory care place gave me was a little brochure on how to set up their room/decor and also lists of things they will need. It said to bring not more than 2 weeks worth of clothing (and clothing that is machine washable). (I had initially thought it said bring 2 weeks worth), lots of towel and wash cloths and 2 sets of sheets. It also listed things like liquid soap instead of bar soap. I know where she lives now they supply the sheets and towels, but she brought a lot of towels with her. I just can't remember what she has for her own sheets. I'm sure there are probably some there on the shelves in her closet, but not for sure what/how many. I think she has 4 or 5 pairs of jeans we will take, a maybe take 10 of her tops, a heavy jacket, light jacket, and a couple of her cardigan sweaters. Since we'll only have about an hour before the movers arrive, we'll quickly grab the clothes to take and get it all put in that one closet marked for moving.
I decided to just do up a Target order for her online yesterday to have shipped here. Two new sets of twin sheets (because even if she does have some, they have to probably be 20 or 30 years old LOL), body wash, a shampoo/conditioner in one, clippers (I can't find hers), nail files, dental floss, extra toothbrush (I had already just bought her 2 tubes of toothpaste last week), and tweezers. When we have to take her out the morning of the move, the plan is to take her to Kohl's for some new tennis shoes and slippers. I got some pretty floral sheets....that way I can kind of see if her sheets end up staying on her bed, LOL. They will be easy to recognize. It does say to mark all the clothes and linens tags with her initials with a sharpie marker. I keep passing this info on to dd and she is making a list on her phone of what we need to take with us that morning (ie, sharpie marker).
The new caregiver (L) that K hired has taken over K's Sat-Tues shifts it seems. She does seem super friendly, though when I looked on the camera last evening when she came to do mom's meds, for some reason mom already had on her nightgown, but still had her jeans and shoes on. L suggested she take her pants off, but mom didn't want to...........and of course she slept with her pants on last night.
I'm glad I also have tomorrow off work. An extra day to relax and get a nap in will be helpful. Every time I go to give my mom a quick call to see how she's doing, she either is not there, or I see her on the camera taking a nap in her recliner, and I don't want to disturb her. I was going to call her last evening and looked on the camera and right then her phone rang and it was my uncle, so I didn't end up calling her. Figured she got his call, so I'll try again sometime today.
Last night dinner was the yummy herb and butter salmon, garlic texas toast, and applesauce. The salmon is so quick and easy to make. 15 minutes and it's ready. I came across a youtube channel for "dump and go casseroles" and watched a few recipes. They looked really good, so I'm going to watch some and make a list for the ingredients for a few of them to give a try. Easy and they look like dishes dh and I would both like.
Even if your mom has the things, just so much easier to order and deliver to you. You don't need the added stress.
ReplyDeletethat's what I'm thinking, too. I won't have to spend time looking for these items. Just bring it all in a box that will also be labeled for moving.
DeleteA sharpie may work for your needs but they sometimes bleed the first time you wash the items. I have seen black spots all over sheets before. I don't know ifbthey make a permanent laundry marker. Others may have more knowledge than me.
ReplyDeleteI was kind of wondering that - I think what I will do is use the sharpie for now and order some of these washable/stick on labels I have read about and get on Amazon and the print her name or initials on them
DeleteI used to use fabric markers on the kids stuff. They come in white and black for sure. They never bleed and the writing lasts forever. I used to just get them at wm in the fabric department.
ReplyDeleteDiane
This is very helpful to know, thank you!
DeleteBest of luck with your mother's transition.
ReplyDeleteThank you Meg, I appreciate it.
DeleteYou might get her several pair of sweat pants. They can be easier to slip on and off. I got iron on labels but I like the sharpie. Socks are hard to label. She will likely lose some clothes and others will miraculously appear. It seems to happen everywhere. I try not to complain about my husbands care and I help out when I’m there. I don’t want his rate to go up any more than it has to so I give them lots of praise for the nice things I see them doing. An acquaintance who is pretty confrontational with staff at her husbands facility has had his rates go up. It sounds like you have definitely covered all your bases.
ReplyDeleteHer jeans are elastic waist, slip on, so I'm going to just have them try those for now, as that is what she is familiar/comfortable with. That's a very good point/observation about praising them and not being a constant complainer! I'm usually very easy going and understanding, so I'm hoping it all goes well.
DeleteI think you have everything covered. If you can mark her shoes & slippers. They can end up anywhere.
ReplyDeleteShe maybe could use sweats or pull on
slacks. The easier the better for all involved.
Your mom will be fine & where she needs to be.
Her jeans are just elastic waist, pull on type. She will be fine and the admin guy said once they are adjusted they typically actually start doing better than before.
DeleteI wonder if the woman complaining has legitimate problems or if she is just nitpicking.
ReplyDeleteI think things are going to work well for you, mostly because of how well you have planned all of this.
ReplyDeleteA while back you bought an iPad because you didn't love the Kindle you bought. Would you be willing to sell the kindle? I'm looking for an extra to take for hubby while traveling.
It was actually a Fire HD 10 tablet, not a kindle. If it's something you may be interested in, I was actually thinking of asking if anyone on here wanted it and I'd send it to them, no charge. It might just be a couple weeks before I have time to get to the post office to mail it, though.
DeleteSorry, I made that comment from my phone and I'm sure my information didn't come through. Feel free to email me if you're interested in parting with the Kindle that you didn't like so much. We're planning an Alaskan cruise and have several hours long flights in our future.
DeleteI seem to use the term Kindle and Fire interchangeably. I would be happy to send money for it, or at least for shipping! The timeline is fine, as we have 122 days before we leave. (Yes, I'm totally counting down the days!)
DeleteAlice - send me an email to onefamilyoneincome@gmail.com. I'd be happy to send it to you!
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