Friday, September 4, 2015

It's official: we are old codgers

DH kind of had to set DD straight a bit last night. I love her to death, but honestly I am looking forward to later this month when she goes back to school. I'm ready to have my space and regular sleep back. I guess I'm officially good at being an empty nester now.

She and her BF spend every single day together. I get that. Completely. They are in love. They are perfect for each other. But his schedule is not my schedule. His 5-6 hours of sleep per night is definitely not my schedule. Until a few weeks ago he worked the afternoon/night shift. Started work at 2:30 and got off at 11:30pm. M-F. He was used to not going to bed until 1 or 2 am. This was a complete shift for DD's schedule, since they started dating last Dec/Jan. She has always been a go to bed early girl.

So, mornings (usually by 9 or 9:30) DD would head over to his place or he'd be coming over to our place. DH is not a morning person. It takes him quite awhile to get so his body will move after laying down for 6 or 7 hours. It's a slow process and he's not really in the mood to be super chatty with someone who loves to chat. Conversely, at 1am, while DH is still up (he has trouble sleeping with his health problems), he is winding down, sleepy and getting ready to head to bed. When BF brings DD home, he doesn't need BF standing there wanting to talk to him for a half hour, because BF is wide awake.

Me, I go to bed at 9:30 or 10. Usually 9:30 on week nights. I need 7-8 hours sleep. I don't always sleep the greatest because of my neck and back problems. Now her BF works days. 6am to 2:30pm. So now they spend from the time he gets off work until about 11:30pm together. Most days DD goes to his house, but every night she rolls in around 11:30 or 11:40 - our one dog always barks (that's just the way he is) and he's sleeping with me, so of course I get woke up. Even if he just lets out a little woof, I still get woken up and I almost always hear her pulling in our gravel driveway and the parking is right outside my bedroom window and her car has a little bit of a loud exhaust sound to it. Or there are the nights, like last night where BF had picked her up after he got off work, they went to his house and he had to bring her home later. So, at 11pm, after I had already been asleep last night, here they come. His truck is diesel and loud and of course our one barker dog has to start barking because he gets really excited when he knows it someone besides us coming in. I am tired of being woken up every single night. A few times a week would be tolerable, but not every night.

If DD had to get up and be at work at 6am each morning, I KNOW she would not be coming home at 11:30 every night. She doesn't get up until around 8:30 each morning. She gets her nights sleep she needs. But, I'm not and DH finally told her it's disrespectful. Not to mention her coming home that late and our private roads back into our neighborhood are crawling with druggies and criminals. He would totally worry until he knew she was inside our gate.

I'm ready to have my home back to myself. Ready to be able to put my pj's on in the evening, while I sit and watch tv, use my tablet or read a book. Ready to not be woken up every night by her return or her BF leaving and hearing his truck start up.


  1. My husband and I laughed. We are the same way and we still have young kids living at home. I am constantly saying, "It's 9, time for kids to head off to their rooms.

    1. I never felt that way until recently. When son lived here his girlfriend was here all the time and it wasn't until he moved out that I realized how nice it was having the place more to myself, haha! Then DD went off to college and wow - the alone time is kinda nice :)